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[Murasaki Doku]

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Probably no one checks the timestamps on posts, but it is currently 3:36 in the morning for me. And tonight marks the fourth time my mother has died in my dreams.

How do I conquer this? I have too much stress in my life to deal with already; I invite sleep and dreams into my life as they reduce my stress, but more often than I'd like do I have dreams that compound onto real-life stress.

Not only are these dreams stressful, but they're traumatic too. Such an overwhelming feeling of loss and helplessness and fear...and that is only multiplied when, in real life, I tell my mother I had that dream, and she laughs. As if it's nothing. But when it's happening, it feels so real.

I want them to stop...but how?

[Saifer Dracondrali]

My advice? Spend time with your mother so that neither of you would have regrets after such an event. Find out what you would do after she died, have her write a will. From the sound of it your mother is a good person and I'm sure she'd sit down to talk with you about it if she knew how upset you are about this. Ultimately, this is a situation that you can only solve between you and your mother, I'm sure you know that... make sure she does too.

[Murasaki Doku]

That's the thing...I already spend an incredible amount of time with her. She doesn't find me having these dreams worrisome, and mentioning it just leads to an uncomfortably candid conversation about how I need to be ready in case it actually happens. Reality is, you can't be ready for something like that...

[Saifer Dracondrali]

Tell her that she may not find them worrisome but you do, it's important that you talk this over as it will majorly impact your life. It's true you cannot truly be ready for such a thing to happen but that's all the more reason you and your mother need to talk this over. Find quiet place and talk to her alone, and make sure she knows the urgency of this. A simple talk will help put this to rest, afterwards, if you both had a good enough talk, you shouldn't need to focus on the "whens" or "what-ifs" but the "NOWS". Everyone is given one life to do with as they please and it shouldn't be wasted on such worries, although I do agree you and your mom should talk about this, LIVE LIFE TO IT'S FULLEST!
Interesting Story... a woman was driving from the doctor after finding out she may possibly have cancer, needless to say countless thoughts were going through her head as she dwelled on the matter just then at an intersection someone ran a light smacked into her car and sent her spiraling out of control when it was over miraculously no one, including her, was hurt. Then she just sat there and laughed, and thought to herself "What is wrong with me!? Here I am worrying about what might not be true and barely escaping death in the real world!" A few days later it turns out she didn't have Cancer and she lives to this day... in fact she was the one who told me this story I see her every Sunday... well if I didn't miss church

[TRAViS]

Tell her that she may not find them worrisome but you do, it's important that you talk this over as it will majorly impact your life. It's true you cannot truly be ready for such a thing to happen but that's all the more reason you and your mother need to talk this over. Find quiet place and talk to her alone, and make sure she knows the urgency of this. A simple talk will help put this to rest, afterwards, if you both had a good enough talk, you shouldn't need to focus on the "whens" or "what-ifs" but the "NOWS". Everyone is given one life to do with as they please and it shouldn't be wasted on such worries, although I do agree you and your mom should talk about this, LIVE LIFE TO IT'S FULLEST!

I completely agree. When you spend so much time worrying about things like that you let your life pass you by and miss out on everything else going on around you. Let your mother know that these things horrify you and shouldn't be taken so lightly; I'm sure she'll understand.

[NNR07]

To dream about the death of a loved one, suggests that you are lacking a certain aspect or quality that the loved one embodies. Ask yourself what makes this person special or what do you like about him. It is that very quality that you are lacking in your own relationship or circumstances. Alternatively, it indicates that whatever that person represents has no part in your own life.�

From Dream Dictionary.

Ponder over that for a second; does that describe you? It doesn't always.

[Murasaki Doku]

I may end up not discussing it with her. Mostly because we've been talking about far more pleasant things. xD

@NNR07: Besides the fact that that doesn't sound like the situation, there is very little symbolism in my dreams. What happens in them is all product of my *extremely* overactive imagination.

[K.C.Miangra]

it may be caused by being stressed out by something else. Maybe something is bugging you and it causes weird dreams of dead mommies. My sis gets that way before finals, except last time she dreampt of Bigbull from Okage joining school, everyday for about a week.

[Saifer Dracondrali]

I may end up not discussing it with her. Mostly because we've been talking about far more pleasant things. xD

Well do what ya think you should do. If ya don't feel like it needs ta be discussed then don't but if ya do then by all means DO! Well wish ya the best.
Peace!

[Annwyll]

I'd say just spend some special time with her, that's how I got over the same type of dream. Mine was always a car crash, so for a while I freaked whenever she had to get in the car. Winter was hell for me. (Damn Icy roads.) But I started to hang out with her more and eventually realized she was going nowhere for a long time to come.

EDIT: I just realized someone else gave you that advice... Sorry, it's the best thing I could think of. o.0'

[Musashi_HUmar]

I think this nightmare of yours developed from the close and pleasant relationship you have your mother. Don't get me wrong, this is a good thing. My mother and I have no such pleasant relationship. But my theory is that the reason behind your nightmares is because you have such a good relationship with your mother, you're afraid of losing her or at least something that would bring your relationship to an end or change it in a not so pleasant way. My suggestion: Keep having good times with your mother. Cherish every moment you can with her. Eventually, she will die. But at least you'll have all of the pleasant memories of her to hold on to. But for the time being, you shouldn't be too afraid of losing her. It's fears like that that could ruin what a wonderful thing you have going!